The “birds and the bees” talk can be a daunting conversation for any parent. It’s natural for this conversation to feel uncomfortable under any circumstances, but there are additional layers of consideration when it comes to neurodivergent kids, such as kids with autism and/or ADHD. These children and teens can have trouble navigating social interactions, and they’re at higher risk than other kids for sexual abuse, being taken advantage of, making impulsive decisions, and unknowingly offending others.
A kid’s parent or guardian is the best person to have this conversation, as they understand their child’s specific needs, preferences, and communication styles best. It’s important to know that parents and guardians also have the most influence over their kids, especially before the teenage years, when peers become very influential.
Here are some strategies to consider when having the “birds and the bees” talk with neurodivergent kids:
- Be honest and direct
- Use simple, concrete terms
- Expect to repeat yourself
- Talk about boundaries, bodies, consent, and baby-making
- Ask kids for questions and feedback
Remember: educating yourself is key, mistakes are okay, and preparing in advance eases these conversations! Learn more from the video of our recent meeting, when Amy Lang spoke to our community about navigating the “Birds and the Bees” with neurodivergent kids.
